Let’s explore this concept of Fantasies and how we can relate to them in our lives in this discussion group followed by a Puja Experience.

Puja literally means: worship, honor, adoration, respect and homage. An essential part of Puja is making a spiritual connection with the Divine. Tantra Sacred Loving Pujas are rituals created in a safe, sacred space. In this environment we explore, play and connect with ourselves and with others. We learn to remove our masks and to see the Divine in one another–seeing the reflection of ourselves. Through this reflection we are able to become more deeply aware of our true being and our life purpose. Pujas incorporate singing bowls, movement, breath and connection so we can play, love, laugh, explore and release together. I encourage you to join us in the sacred space of this PUJA and see what doors open for you. All PUJAs are facilitated by Lisa A. Rizzoli, Elite Certified Tantra Educator.

Here is a video to explain a little more about Puja.

$20.00 preregistration through July 31st; $30.00 August 1-2 or at the door.

Are You Ready to Realize Your Sexual Fantasies?

By Lisa A. Rizzoii

“All ‘Eros’ is custom…any sexual act is moral or immoral by precisely the same laws of morality as any other human act; all other rules about sex are simply customs—local and transient.” ~ Robert A. Heinlein

What is sexually normal? What is sexually deviant? Who makes these distinctions?

Our sexual conceptions and perceptions are prescribed by our culture. We are constantly exposed to sexual messages and images through all forms of media. After all, sex sells. Yet these messages are often conflicting and confusing by nature. Be sexually desirable, but not too desirable then you could be viewed as a “slut” or a deviant.

What about our sexual fantasies? Can we freely share them with our partners or others? Is it safe for us to explore our sexual desires? I once had a man talk to me about an anniversary gift he had purchased for his wife. It was a strap-on dildo, he wanted to explore anal sex play with her. After some discussion, I learned he had never discussed this desire with her. My suggestion was to have a beautiful anniversary dinner and to give her something personal as an anniversary gift, then at a later date talk about his desire to explore anal play.

It is important for us to create a safe space to explore and communicate our desires, fantasies, and wishes. Creating safe space is a practice of authentic communication. A couple can develop a way to safely communicate with one another and to really listen to each other’s needs, wants and desires. In the above-mentioned scenario, the husband wants to explore a sexual act with his wife that needs to be discussed before a present is given. Being authentic about our fantasies and desires with one another is a form of intimacy that enhances and deepens the relationship.

Of course there are the times when we want to surprise our partners. For example, meeting our partner at a hotel room wearing a wig and negligee. Do we need to discuss this fantasy first? It would take away from the surprise of the experience and it is a risk. The risk of rejection is a possibility and is the risk worth the reward? Knowing your partner is the key to a successful, sexual surprise. Exploring and knowing the boundaries of each other and the relationship enables us to understand what is acceptable in the realms of sexual play.

It is up to you and your partner to decide what is sexually acceptable within your own relationship. Society does not need to dictate or limit your imagination. Work to build open lines of communication with your partner and enjoy your sexuality to the fullest.

Lisa A. Rizzoli and Kevin Brizendine

Organizer of The Fantasy Puja: A Discussion and Experience